So, I have heard about these fabulous movie theaters where you get served cocktails, the chairs are like recliners that you can snuggle in, and the food is gourmet. I have been to a few theaters that have decent food, but I have never been to one where the seats where super comfortable (my butt always starts hurting by an hour into the show, and I have to shift in my seat constantly so don't ever sit behind me in a movie theater because I will probably annoy you with all of my movement!). Anyway, for $10 a pop, I feel like movie theaters need to step it up, and this means Savannah. None of our movie theaters are anything to write home about (well, I haven't watched a movie at old-school theater downtown that sometimes shows movies), and I wish that we had one of the super-duper cool ones that I have heard about. Gary and I don't go to the movies that often, but when we do, I want to feel like I am not getting just completely robbed, so having a little more comfortable seats would certainly help (as would a few martinis! I'll even pay for them!). I just want it to be more of an experience instead of be wishing that I could just watch all of the just-released movies on my couch. Maybe one day we won't even have movie theaters, and everything will be able to be downloaded onto our computers that we can hook up straight to our tvs. Step it up movie theaters, or your days may be numbered.
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Saturday, April 30, 2011
Friday, April 29, 2011
Fiction Fridays-"Passion"--my attempt at a Shakespearean-style sonnet
So Yahoo! had a contest for the best Shakespearean-style sonnet, and I entered but will admit that while I do not think of myself as a poet, I did love writing this so maybe I should try to write more of it (and turn them into song lyrics that I can sell to like Beyonce or someone?!). For those of you that don't remember (or care to remember) what a sonnet is from your high school English class days, let me refresh you. It's a 14 line, abab, cdcd, efef, gg rhyme scheme poem written in iambic pentameter (da DUM da DUM da DUM da DUM da DUM is supposed to be the beat which is all about where you are supposed to put the stress or emphasize on a word). For example, trapeze works for da DUM because we say tra-PEZE--it's the stronger part of the word. Anyway, here's my attempt at winning the $100 prize:
Passion
Passion
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Whatever Wednesdays-Left Brain vs. Right Brain debate
Thanks to my Barstinations partner Rachel M Cotton, I tool the left vs. right brain creativity test via the Art Institute of Vancouver: click here to take it yourself because these things are awesome and really reveal a lot about your "work" personality, how you best process information, and just gives you more insight into, well, you! Here are my results below. For those of you that know me, do you think this test was right?
What Do These Percentages Mean? Low percentages are common in the Brain Type Test and are not indicative of intelligence. Instead, medium to high scores (30 - 50%) are desireable, as they show an ability to utilize a processing method without an abnormal reliance on it. Special focus should be paid to highly dominant (50% or above) or highly recessive (0 - 30%) methods, as they tend to limit your approach when learning, memorizing, or solving problems.
If you have Highly Dominant characteristics, your normal thinking patterns will naturally utilize these methods. Conscious effort is required to recognize the benefits of other techniques. Using multiple forms of information processing is the best way to fully understand complex issues and become a balanced thinker.
If you have Highly Recessive characteristics, your normal thinking patterns naturally ignore these methods. You may only consider these under-utilized techniques when "all else fails," or possibly not at all. It is important to recognize the benefits of all of your brain's capabilities in order to become a balanced thinker.
Left Brain Categories
Verbal Processing Verbal processing is a method used by the left hemisphere to process our thoughts and ideas with words. For example, through verbal processing, a left-brained person giving directions may say, "From this point continue east for two miles and turn north onto Bellevue Road. Continue north on Bellevue Road for seven miles and turn west on Main Street". With verbal processing, exact, logical directions are given in a very sequential manner compared to a right-brained person who, in giving the same directions, would use more visual landmarks.
Your Verbal Analysis
You have a moderate verbal ability. Using this method you process your thoughts and ideas with words. You tend to combine technical details with illustrations, depending on whatever strikes you. For instance, if giving directions, you might say, "Continue two miles east on Court Street and take a left at the McDonalds," combining the exact details of street names and mileage with prominent landmarks.
Reality-based Processing Reality-based processing is used by the left hemisphere as a method for processing information with a basis on reality. This processing tool focuses on rules and regulations. An example of this would be how a left-brained person would completely understand the repercussions of turning in a late assignment or failing a test. A left-brained person also usually easily adjusts to changes in their environment.
Your Reality-based Analysis
You process information with a basis in reality, but are not limited to it. You may recognize the repercussions of you actions, but proceed to do something anyway, in the heat of the moment. You can complete projects to whice you are emotionally attached as well as random tasks.
Linear Processing Linear processing is a method by the left hemisphere to process information. In this process, the left brain takes pieces of information, lines them up, and proceeds to arrange them into an order from which it may draw a conclusion. The information is processed from parts to a whole in a straight, forward, and logical progression.
Your Linear Analysis
When processing information using this method, you will occasionally feel the need to see the "whole picture" before you are able to achieve results. At other times, you are able to piece all of the parts together in a straight and logical progression to form a whole, which then enables you to understand what you have processing. The information, your mood, and your level of comfortable are all factors that determine your response to a linear processing problem.
Sequential Processing Sequential processing is a method used by the left hemisphere for processing information. The information that is received is processed in order from first to last. Information is processed in a systematic, logical manner. Through sequential processing, you can interpret and produce symbolic information such as language, mathematics, abstraction, and reasoning. This process is used to store memory in a language format. Activities that require sequential processing include spelling, making a "to-do" list, and many aspects of organization.
Your Sequential Analysis
You show moderate ability to organize information sequentially. You are capable of processing information you receive in a systematic, logical order from first to last. However, at times you will process information you receive quite randomly, or may give it only a semblance of order. You are probably an average mathematician and speller, and may or may not enjoy tasks such as making "to-do" lists.
Symbolic Processing Symbolic processing is a method associated with the left hemisphere that is used for processing the information of pictures and symbols. The majority of functions associated with academics involve symbols such as letters, words, and mathematical notations. This process is what aids you to excel in tasks such as linguistics, mathematics, and memorizing vocabulary words and mathematical formulas.
Your Symbolic Analysis
You have difficulty processing the information of symbols, and would rather see the real object in order to understand. You probably hated algebra. For example, if solving a math problem, you need to "draw out" the problem to understand and solve it. You rely on the visualization of real objects instead of their symbols. Tasks such as memorizing vocabulary words or mathematical formulas are more difficult for you.
Logical Processing Logical processing is a method that is used by the left hemisphere to take information piece by piece and put it all together to form a logical answer. When information is received through reading or listening, the left hemisphere will look for different bits of information that will allow it to produce a logical conclusion. This aspect of the left hemisphere is what aids you in solving math problems and science experiments.
Your Logical Analysis
Logical processing is not one of your strengths, so you may tend to rely on a "gut" feeling to help you make your decisions from the information you have received. For example, you will often choose an answer on a test because it "feels" right, and you may be correct. This is due to the fact of your tendency to look for the whole picture but not the details that create it. You can often start with the answer and work your way back to allow yourself to see the process and parts that create the whole. You may find math problems and science experiments difficult because of this.
Right Brain Categories
Random Processing Random processing is a method used by the right hemisphere for processing information. The information that is received is processed without priority. A right-brained person will usually jump from one task to another due to the random processing by their dominant right hemisphere. Random processing is, of course, the opposite of sequential processing therefore making it difficult for right-brained individuals to choose to learn in sequence. In order to overcome this, a right-brained person may want to attempt to learn sequence by using colors since the right hemisphere is sensitive to color. For example, you may want to associate the first step with green, the second step with blue, and the last step with red. Consistently using the same sequence will allow you to see that this strategy can be applied to many tasks involving sequence.
Your Random Analysis
You show a strong ability at random processing. You are good at completing tasks in an unspecified order, and don't waste time creating lists when they aren't needed. You are also able to make "leaps of logic" and make discoveries a sequential thinker could never dream of making. However, you may have difficulty with spelling or certain aspects of mathematics, such as geometric proofs.
Fantasy-oriented Processing Fantasy-oriented processing is used by the right hemisphere as a method for processing information with creativity. It focuses much less on rules and regulations than the processing method of a left-brained person. Due to the fantasy-oriented processing mechanism of a right-brained person, they do not adjust well to change. Instead of adapting to the change in the environment, a right-brained person attempts to change it back to the way they liked it. But fantasy-oriented processing also provides the advantage of creativity to right-brained individuals, and since emotion is integral of the right side of the brain, anything a fantasy-oriented person becomes involved in emotionally will aid their ability to learn.
Your Fantasy-oriented Analysis
You have the ability to use both creativity and reality to process the information you receive. This is a unique gift that allows you to both focus on rules and regulations but to also act with creativity. You are able to adjusting to change, even though you might not like it, and you can become emotionally involved in your work if it interests you.
Nonverbal Processing Nonverbal processing is a method used by the right hemisphere to process our thoughts with illustrations. Reliance on this method is why it is occasionally difficult for right-brained people to "find the right words" in certain situations. A right-brained person cannot just read or hear information and process it, but first must make a mental video to better understand the information they have received. For example, through nonverbal processing, a person giving directions may say, "Continue going straight until you see a big, red-brick courthouse. At the courthouse turn right, and go down that street for a couple of miles until you se a gray stone church which will be on your right. Straight across from the church is the road to the left you need to take." With nonverbal processing, the directions that are given are extremely visual compared to the exact, sequential directions that would be given by a left-brained person.
Your Nonverbal Analysis
When processing your thoughts and ideas, you use tend to use both illustrations and words. When giving directions, you probably use both visual illustrations such as, "keep going until you see a McDonalds on your right; then turn left at the Home Depot", and technical terms such as, "travel for two miles and turn east onto First Street."
Intuitive Processing Intuitive processing is a method that is used by the right hemisphere to process information based on if it "feels" right or not. For example, a right-brained person may choose an answer on a test because they had a "gut" feeling and often they will be correct. Another example of this is how a right-brained person will know the correct answer to a math problem but will not understand the procedure of how they arrived at the correct answer. A right-brained person will usually have to start with the answer and work their way backwards in order to be able to see and understand the parts and process that create the whole.
Your Intuitive Analysis
When you process information using this method, you do not rely on "gut" feelings but take the information and put it together piece by piece to form your conclusions. You often look at all of the different bits of information before piecing together your solution. You probably excel in such tasks as solving math problems and performing science experiments, because the intuitive method is not needed.
Concrete Processing Concrete processing is a method associated with the right hemisphere that is used for processing things that can be seen or touched. It processes much of the information you receive from real objects. For example, a right-brained person is not just satisfied that a mathematical formula may work, but will want to know why it works. A strongly concrete person often finds it easier to solve a mathematical problem by "drawing it out" because it allows them to visualize it. The more a concrete person can visualize something the easier it is for them to understand it.
Your Concrete Analysis
When you process information you have received, the real object is not important to you. You do not have to use the real object to make sense of what you have processed. For example, if solving a math problem you do not have to "draw out" the problem in order to find or understand the answer, and you do not have to visualize something to understand it. However, this also means you often neglect the physical information provided by a concrete example. In other words, you may miss the forest for the trees, trying to deduce something complex when the answer is plain to see.
Holistic Processing Holistic processing is a method used by the right hemisphere to process information. The information is processed from whole to parts. A right-brained person, through holistic processing, is able to see the big picture first, but not the details that accompany it. A strongly holistic person may often find that prior to listening to a lecture given by an instructor, they must first read the chapter so that they better understand what the lecture is about. This function is also what provides to you your visual spatial skills. It also aids in tasks such as dancing and gymnastics. Through holistic processing, memory is stored in auditory, visual, and spatial modalities.
Your Holistic Analysis
You have difficulty seeing the whole picture, especially at the beginning of a project. You tend to process information you receive from its parts to its whole in a straight, progressive manner. When given a task, you tend to not bother asking "why," but instinctively are able to do it.
Disclaimer: The information in the Test (the Test) is published for the sole purpose of intellectual stimulation, education and general knowledge. In no way is the Test to be considered a complete or fully accurate psychological portrait. The Art Institutes and EDMC do not hold any responsibility or liability for your use of the Test or its results. Full Disclaimer
Thank you for taking the Creativity Test. The results show your brain dominance as being:
You are more left-brained than right-brained. Your left brain controls the right side of your body. In addition to being known as left-brained, you are also known as a critical thinker who uses logic and sense to collect information. You are able to retain this information through the use of numbers, words, and symbols. You usually only see parts of the "whole" picture, but this is what guides you step-by-step in a logical manner to your conclusion. Concise words, numerical and written formulas and technological systems are often forms of expression for you. Some occupations usually held by a left-brained person include a lab scientist, banker, judge, lawyer, mathematician, librarian, and skating judge.  Your complete evaluation follows below: | | | |||||||||||||||||||||||||
| your left brain/right brain percentage was calculated by combining the individual scores of each half's sub-categories. They are as follows: Your Left Brain Percentages
Your Right Brain Percentages
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What Do These Percentages Mean? Low percentages are common in the Brain Type Test and are not indicative of intelligence. Instead, medium to high scores (30 - 50%) are desireable, as they show an ability to utilize a processing method without an abnormal reliance on it. Special focus should be paid to highly dominant (50% or above) or highly recessive (0 - 30%) methods, as they tend to limit your approach when learning, memorizing, or solving problems.
If you have Highly Dominant characteristics, your normal thinking patterns will naturally utilize these methods. Conscious effort is required to recognize the benefits of other techniques. Using multiple forms of information processing is the best way to fully understand complex issues and become a balanced thinker.
If you have Highly Recessive characteristics, your normal thinking patterns naturally ignore these methods. You may only consider these under-utilized techniques when "all else fails," or possibly not at all. It is important to recognize the benefits of all of your brain's capabilities in order to become a balanced thinker.
Left Brain Categories
Verbal Processing Verbal processing is a method used by the left hemisphere to process our thoughts and ideas with words. For example, through verbal processing, a left-brained person giving directions may say, "From this point continue east for two miles and turn north onto Bellevue Road. Continue north on Bellevue Road for seven miles and turn west on Main Street". With verbal processing, exact, logical directions are given in a very sequential manner compared to a right-brained person who, in giving the same directions, would use more visual landmarks.
Your Verbal Analysis
You have a moderate verbal ability. Using this method you process your thoughts and ideas with words. You tend to combine technical details with illustrations, depending on whatever strikes you. For instance, if giving directions, you might say, "Continue two miles east on Court Street and take a left at the McDonalds," combining the exact details of street names and mileage with prominent landmarks.
Reality-based Processing Reality-based processing is used by the left hemisphere as a method for processing information with a basis on reality. This processing tool focuses on rules and regulations. An example of this would be how a left-brained person would completely understand the repercussions of turning in a late assignment or failing a test. A left-brained person also usually easily adjusts to changes in their environment.
Your Reality-based Analysis
You process information with a basis in reality, but are not limited to it. You may recognize the repercussions of you actions, but proceed to do something anyway, in the heat of the moment. You can complete projects to whice you are emotionally attached as well as random tasks.
Linear Processing Linear processing is a method by the left hemisphere to process information. In this process, the left brain takes pieces of information, lines them up, and proceeds to arrange them into an order from which it may draw a conclusion. The information is processed from parts to a whole in a straight, forward, and logical progression.
Your Linear Analysis
When processing information using this method, you will occasionally feel the need to see the "whole picture" before you are able to achieve results. At other times, you are able to piece all of the parts together in a straight and logical progression to form a whole, which then enables you to understand what you have processing. The information, your mood, and your level of comfortable are all factors that determine your response to a linear processing problem.
Sequential Processing Sequential processing is a method used by the left hemisphere for processing information. The information that is received is processed in order from first to last. Information is processed in a systematic, logical manner. Through sequential processing, you can interpret and produce symbolic information such as language, mathematics, abstraction, and reasoning. This process is used to store memory in a language format. Activities that require sequential processing include spelling, making a "to-do" list, and many aspects of organization.
Your Sequential Analysis
You show moderate ability to organize information sequentially. You are capable of processing information you receive in a systematic, logical order from first to last. However, at times you will process information you receive quite randomly, or may give it only a semblance of order. You are probably an average mathematician and speller, and may or may not enjoy tasks such as making "to-do" lists.
Symbolic Processing Symbolic processing is a method associated with the left hemisphere that is used for processing the information of pictures and symbols. The majority of functions associated with academics involve symbols such as letters, words, and mathematical notations. This process is what aids you to excel in tasks such as linguistics, mathematics, and memorizing vocabulary words and mathematical formulas.
Your Symbolic Analysis
You have difficulty processing the information of symbols, and would rather see the real object in order to understand. You probably hated algebra. For example, if solving a math problem, you need to "draw out" the problem to understand and solve it. You rely on the visualization of real objects instead of their symbols. Tasks such as memorizing vocabulary words or mathematical formulas are more difficult for you.
Logical Processing Logical processing is a method that is used by the left hemisphere to take information piece by piece and put it all together to form a logical answer. When information is received through reading or listening, the left hemisphere will look for different bits of information that will allow it to produce a logical conclusion. This aspect of the left hemisphere is what aids you in solving math problems and science experiments.
Your Logical Analysis
Logical processing is not one of your strengths, so you may tend to rely on a "gut" feeling to help you make your decisions from the information you have received. For example, you will often choose an answer on a test because it "feels" right, and you may be correct. This is due to the fact of your tendency to look for the whole picture but not the details that create it. You can often start with the answer and work your way back to allow yourself to see the process and parts that create the whole. You may find math problems and science experiments difficult because of this.
Right Brain Categories
Random Processing Random processing is a method used by the right hemisphere for processing information. The information that is received is processed without priority. A right-brained person will usually jump from one task to another due to the random processing by their dominant right hemisphere. Random processing is, of course, the opposite of sequential processing therefore making it difficult for right-brained individuals to choose to learn in sequence. In order to overcome this, a right-brained person may want to attempt to learn sequence by using colors since the right hemisphere is sensitive to color. For example, you may want to associate the first step with green, the second step with blue, and the last step with red. Consistently using the same sequence will allow you to see that this strategy can be applied to many tasks involving sequence.
Your Random Analysis
You show a strong ability at random processing. You are good at completing tasks in an unspecified order, and don't waste time creating lists when they aren't needed. You are also able to make "leaps of logic" and make discoveries a sequential thinker could never dream of making. However, you may have difficulty with spelling or certain aspects of mathematics, such as geometric proofs.
Fantasy-oriented Processing Fantasy-oriented processing is used by the right hemisphere as a method for processing information with creativity. It focuses much less on rules and regulations than the processing method of a left-brained person. Due to the fantasy-oriented processing mechanism of a right-brained person, they do not adjust well to change. Instead of adapting to the change in the environment, a right-brained person attempts to change it back to the way they liked it. But fantasy-oriented processing also provides the advantage of creativity to right-brained individuals, and since emotion is integral of the right side of the brain, anything a fantasy-oriented person becomes involved in emotionally will aid their ability to learn.
Your Fantasy-oriented Analysis
You have the ability to use both creativity and reality to process the information you receive. This is a unique gift that allows you to both focus on rules and regulations but to also act with creativity. You are able to adjusting to change, even though you might not like it, and you can become emotionally involved in your work if it interests you.
Nonverbal Processing Nonverbal processing is a method used by the right hemisphere to process our thoughts with illustrations. Reliance on this method is why it is occasionally difficult for right-brained people to "find the right words" in certain situations. A right-brained person cannot just read or hear information and process it, but first must make a mental video to better understand the information they have received. For example, through nonverbal processing, a person giving directions may say, "Continue going straight until you see a big, red-brick courthouse. At the courthouse turn right, and go down that street for a couple of miles until you se a gray stone church which will be on your right. Straight across from the church is the road to the left you need to take." With nonverbal processing, the directions that are given are extremely visual compared to the exact, sequential directions that would be given by a left-brained person.
Your Nonverbal Analysis
When processing your thoughts and ideas, you use tend to use both illustrations and words. When giving directions, you probably use both visual illustrations such as, "keep going until you see a McDonalds on your right; then turn left at the Home Depot", and technical terms such as, "travel for two miles and turn east onto First Street."
Intuitive Processing Intuitive processing is a method that is used by the right hemisphere to process information based on if it "feels" right or not. For example, a right-brained person may choose an answer on a test because they had a "gut" feeling and often they will be correct. Another example of this is how a right-brained person will know the correct answer to a math problem but will not understand the procedure of how they arrived at the correct answer. A right-brained person will usually have to start with the answer and work their way backwards in order to be able to see and understand the parts and process that create the whole.
Your Intuitive Analysis
When you process information using this method, you do not rely on "gut" feelings but take the information and put it together piece by piece to form your conclusions. You often look at all of the different bits of information before piecing together your solution. You probably excel in such tasks as solving math problems and performing science experiments, because the intuitive method is not needed.
Concrete Processing Concrete processing is a method associated with the right hemisphere that is used for processing things that can be seen or touched. It processes much of the information you receive from real objects. For example, a right-brained person is not just satisfied that a mathematical formula may work, but will want to know why it works. A strongly concrete person often finds it easier to solve a mathematical problem by "drawing it out" because it allows them to visualize it. The more a concrete person can visualize something the easier it is for them to understand it.
Your Concrete Analysis
When you process information you have received, the real object is not important to you. You do not have to use the real object to make sense of what you have processed. For example, if solving a math problem you do not have to "draw out" the problem in order to find or understand the answer, and you do not have to visualize something to understand it. However, this also means you often neglect the physical information provided by a concrete example. In other words, you may miss the forest for the trees, trying to deduce something complex when the answer is plain to see.
Holistic Processing Holistic processing is a method used by the right hemisphere to process information. The information is processed from whole to parts. A right-brained person, through holistic processing, is able to see the big picture first, but not the details that accompany it. A strongly holistic person may often find that prior to listening to a lecture given by an instructor, they must first read the chapter so that they better understand what the lecture is about. This function is also what provides to you your visual spatial skills. It also aids in tasks such as dancing and gymnastics. Through holistic processing, memory is stored in auditory, visual, and spatial modalities.
Your Holistic Analysis
You have difficulty seeing the whole picture, especially at the beginning of a project. You tend to process information you receive from its parts to its whole in a straight, progressive manner. When given a task, you tend to not bother asking "why," but instinctively are able to do it.
Disclaimer: The information in the Test (the Test) is published for the sole purpose of intellectual stimulation, education and general knowledge. In no way is the Test to be considered a complete or fully accurate psychological portrait. The Art Institutes and EDMC do not hold any responsibility or liability for your use of the Test or its results. Full Disclaimer
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Taste Tuesdays-S'mores Panini
I am now intrigued to make one at home or go back and give the S'mores Panini another chance. I mean, how can it NOT be good? In related thoughts, do any of you have a panini press? If yes and you love it, let me know what kind you have as I really want to get one, but I always think to myself, "We can just use a skillet and press down on the sandwich with a spatula..." (even though we rarely do that and it's just not the same!).
Monday, April 25, 2011
Marriage Mondays: 5 Love Languages
She Said: The book The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman that really helped me understand Gary better and more importantly, love him how he needs to be loved. The philosophy is that while everyone needs to be loved in all five ways, one of these needs to be emphasized the most. They are:
1. Acts of Service (doing stuff for your loved one, like laundry, making them a cup of tea, etc.)
2. Words of Affirmation (aka praise)
3. Physical touch (not just sex but affection of any type)
4. Quality Time together
5. Receiving gifts
There is a free quiz you can take (click here!) that tells you what type you need. Sit down this week with your loved one and take the quiz, then have them take it and share the results with each other. I promise you this 30 minutes or less time will be well spent and help you have a stronger relationship. Anyway, Gary and I took it and I discovered mine is quality time (that is why I love epic, in-depth conversations and hate wasting time) and Gary's is words of affirmation (aka praise). Sometimes when I get frustrated with Gary because he wants me to notice every little thing he does around the house (even though I may have done the exact same chore the day before without any praise!), I have to stop and remind myself that praise is his most meaningful and needed love language. If keeping his "love tank" filled (as Dr. Chapman calls it) means constantly praising him--like every single day praising him, thanking him for dinner, etc.--then it is worth it because in return, I have a happier, sweeter spouse who then will reciprocate by spending quality time with me.
We rarely just sit around without some kind of plan I guess because not only am I a Type-A personality, I also want to feel like we are getting something meaningful and significant out of our time together. So, tonight when he gets home even though we don't have any plans, we will have dinner and then I will ask, "What do you want to do tonight?" (with an emphasis on "do!"). So, we might decide to just snuggle and watch tv but because we decide together what to do instead of just laying around and not discussing it first, my "quality time" need is met because I feel like we agreed on how to spend our precious few hours together each evening after a long day at work.
He Said: I'm probably losing several "Man Cards" by admitting that I have read this book, but I'm okay with that because it gives such meaningful advice on how to truly make your marriage more fulfilled. According to Dr. Chapman, everyone has a love tank that essentially works like your vehicles gas tank--only it is fueled with love, not gasoline. All of the Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time Together, and Gifts work as the fuel. Obviously, the goal is to keep your spouse's love tank filled at all times. The trick to it all is finding the correct order of importance for each of the five love languages, which you can do by taking the quiz in the book or online. A good marriage incorporates all five, but there are certain ones that weigh more heavily than the others. For example, Shawndra's main love language is Quality Time and the last one on her list is Gifts. If she is away coaching volleyball for a weekend without me, I know that she is going to want to spend some quality time with me, and if I have something planned (even just renting a movie and making a nice dinner), it means a lot to her. For me, Words of Affirmation are my main love language. A little praise goes a long way for me. It makes me feel appreciated and more willing to reciprocate some of that love. A simple "Thank you" is all it really takes; I'm not asking Shawndra to scream to the heavens. The key to it all is to find a balance and really make a strong effort to keep these languages on your mind--chances are you have a totally different needs when it comes to the five love languages, and just because praise works for you does not mean it will fulfill your spouse's needs. And this works for family, friends, and co-workers, as well--just don't exhaust all your effort on them before you make it work at home.
1. Acts of Service (doing stuff for your loved one, like laundry, making them a cup of tea, etc.)
2. Words of Affirmation (aka praise)
3. Physical touch (not just sex but affection of any type)
4. Quality Time together
5. Receiving gifts
There is a free quiz you can take (click here!) that tells you what type you need. Sit down this week with your loved one and take the quiz, then have them take it and share the results with each other. I promise you this 30 minutes or less time will be well spent and help you have a stronger relationship. Anyway, Gary and I took it and I discovered mine is quality time (that is why I love epic, in-depth conversations and hate wasting time) and Gary's is words of affirmation (aka praise). Sometimes when I get frustrated with Gary because he wants me to notice every little thing he does around the house (even though I may have done the exact same chore the day before without any praise!), I have to stop and remind myself that praise is his most meaningful and needed love language. If keeping his "love tank" filled (as Dr. Chapman calls it) means constantly praising him--like every single day praising him, thanking him for dinner, etc.--then it is worth it because in return, I have a happier, sweeter spouse who then will reciprocate by spending quality time with me.
We rarely just sit around without some kind of plan I guess because not only am I a Type-A personality, I also want to feel like we are getting something meaningful and significant out of our time together. So, tonight when he gets home even though we don't have any plans, we will have dinner and then I will ask, "What do you want to do tonight?" (with an emphasis on "do!"). So, we might decide to just snuggle and watch tv but because we decide together what to do instead of just laying around and not discussing it first, my "quality time" need is met because I feel like we agreed on how to spend our precious few hours together each evening after a long day at work.
He Said: I'm probably losing several "Man Cards" by admitting that I have read this book, but I'm okay with that because it gives such meaningful advice on how to truly make your marriage more fulfilled. According to Dr. Chapman, everyone has a love tank that essentially works like your vehicles gas tank--only it is fueled with love, not gasoline. All of the Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time Together, and Gifts work as the fuel. Obviously, the goal is to keep your spouse's love tank filled at all times. The trick to it all is finding the correct order of importance for each of the five love languages, which you can do by taking the quiz in the book or online. A good marriage incorporates all five, but there are certain ones that weigh more heavily than the others. For example, Shawndra's main love language is Quality Time and the last one on her list is Gifts. If she is away coaching volleyball for a weekend without me, I know that she is going to want to spend some quality time with me, and if I have something planned (even just renting a movie and making a nice dinner), it means a lot to her. For me, Words of Affirmation are my main love language. A little praise goes a long way for me. It makes me feel appreciated and more willing to reciprocate some of that love. A simple "Thank you" is all it really takes; I'm not asking Shawndra to scream to the heavens. The key to it all is to find a balance and really make a strong effort to keep these languages on your mind--chances are you have a totally different needs when it comes to the five love languages, and just because praise works for you does not mean it will fulfill your spouse's needs. And this works for family, friends, and co-workers, as well--just don't exhaust all your effort on them before you make it work at home.
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Sightseeing Sundays-Vive la Paris!
First Time in Paris
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Savannah Saturdays-Zunzis
I'm embarrassed to admit that we have never been to Zunzis. Zunzis is like a "thing" in Savannah with a line down the sidewalk pretty much from 11-4 every day. It is a South African (basically meanings lots of sauces and spices) walk-up window joint, and the owner is right there in the thick of the assembly line where they crank the music, crack jokes, and slap together messy blobs of goodness. They cook up meat right there while you wait, throw it on a salad, wrap, or sub, put on tons of yummy sauces, cheeses, lettuce, and a few veggies, and the result is a big, juicy, super-messy piece of heaven that I am now officially obsessed with.
Gary ordered the "Godfather" which was chicken, marina sauce, spicy Zuznis special sauce, and the Zunzi salad dressing, sausage, and mozarella and provolone cheeses, and Parmesan on top. I ordered the "Curry Sunrise" which was chicken mixed with their homemade yellow curried veggies, cheese, sauces, and lettuce. Very good, but Gary's was absolutely to die for--I kept sneaking bites of his especially the pieces that dropped out. They throw it in a container, and you can take it home or go sit in their great little outdoor patio area. Go early or late--NOT from 12-2, or you will be waiting at least 30 minutes (even though it's totally worth it anyway!).
Gary ordered the "Godfather" which was chicken, marina sauce, spicy Zuznis special sauce, and the Zunzi salad dressing, sausage, and mozarella and provolone cheeses, and Parmesan on top. I ordered the "Curry Sunrise" which was chicken mixed with their homemade yellow curried veggies, cheese, sauces, and lettuce. Very good, but Gary's was absolutely to die for--I kept sneaking bites of his especially the pieces that dropped out. They throw it in a container, and you can take it home or go sit in their great little outdoor patio area. Go early or late--NOT from 12-2, or you will be waiting at least 30 minutes (even though it's totally worth it anyway!).
Friday, April 22, 2011
Fiction Friday-Water for Elephants
I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! Again, my wonderful book club is the reason I read it (they pick some fabulous titles!), but I think I would have read this one anyway because I am dying to see the movie out TODAY with Reese Witherspoon and Robert Pattinson. I think both actors are great (yes, I like the Twilight series, but I really liked his performance in Remember Me too--the boy can act I don't care what anyone says!). Anyway, it was kind of cool reading the book while knowing who was going to play the main characters in the movie--I kept picturing Witherspoon and Pattinson in these roles, and I think Pattinson is going to bring the perfect balance of vulnerability, wit, shyness, and passion to the role (I will review the movie once I've seen it this weekend :). I'm a little worried about Witherspoon pulling it off and feeling chemistry between them, but I think if she do her Sweet Home Alabama act (when she embraced her Southern-ness, not when she tried to be Northern).
Anyway, I will not spoil the ending, but the book is a realistic "fictional" biography of a traveling circus of the 1920's and 30's that tried to compete with the Ringling Brothers circus. I was fascinated learning about the circus and it's going-ons and just this whole lifestyle that I will never get to experience--I think living life on the road for a little while would be so fun--Gary and I have talked about taking a year-long road trip at some point. It also gave a great glimpse into the Depression-era and the desperation that working people went through. Learning about elephant behavior totally shocked me too--I never knew how smart they were, and I loved Rosie and can't wait to see a real elephant, played by Tai, as Rosie the Elephant. It may make the ending a little too easy and perfect for the main characters, but if you read the acknowledgments, Gruen justifies her ending because it's based on real-life events and stories that she meticulously researched.
I also love books where the main character is the opposite gender of the writer. I think it's fascinating how accurately and tenderly Gruen not only describes the young Jacob, but the old 93-year-old Jacob that tells the entire story via flashback. It reminded me of the Notebook in that way with this sweet, caring man tells his life story to us--really focusing on when his life began which was when he fell in love for the first (and only) time. Gruen is an author on my radar now, and I want to read more of her works to dive into the thoughts and feelings of her other narrators as you can't help but do in Water for Elephants.
Anyway, I will not spoil the ending, but the book is a realistic "fictional" biography of a traveling circus of the 1920's and 30's that tried to compete with the Ringling Brothers circus. I was fascinated learning about the circus and it's going-ons and just this whole lifestyle that I will never get to experience--I think living life on the road for a little while would be so fun--Gary and I have talked about taking a year-long road trip at some point. It also gave a great glimpse into the Depression-era and the desperation that working people went through. Learning about elephant behavior totally shocked me too--I never knew how smart they were, and I loved Rosie and can't wait to see a real elephant, played by Tai, as Rosie the Elephant. It may make the ending a little too easy and perfect for the main characters, but if you read the acknowledgments, Gruen justifies her ending because it's based on real-life events and stories that she meticulously researched.
I also love books where the main character is the opposite gender of the writer. I think it's fascinating how accurately and tenderly Gruen not only describes the young Jacob, but the old 93-year-old Jacob that tells the entire story via flashback. It reminded me of the Notebook in that way with this sweet, caring man tells his life story to us--really focusing on when his life began which was when he fell in love for the first (and only) time. Gruen is an author on my radar now, and I want to read more of her works to dive into the thoughts and feelings of her other narrators as you can't help but do in Water for Elephants.
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Tune Thursdays-Turtle Folk cd release party
Sorry my blog is late today--had a bunch of exciting meetings about our book project!!! Anyway, here is the link to my "Music Matters" article:
Turtle Folk
P.S. Don't mind the HIDEOUS picture of me...I am actually asking them to take it down and switch it out. NOT my best picture (Hahaha what do you do?)! Oh well, my first picture in the Savannah Morning News paper, and I look awful. Murphy's Law I guess :)
On a music note, we went and saw William Fitzsimmons from last week's article, and he is AMAZING! The sound messed up so he came out into the crowd and sang with just his guitar and his group doing a capella style. Too cool. I will do a full review soon.
Turtle Folk
P.S. Don't mind the HIDEOUS picture of me...I am actually asking them to take it down and switch it out. NOT my best picture (Hahaha what do you do?)! Oh well, my first picture in the Savannah Morning News paper, and I look awful. Murphy's Law I guess :)
On a music note, we went and saw William Fitzsimmons from last week's article, and he is AMAZING! The sound messed up so he came out into the crowd and sang with just his guitar and his group doing a capella style. Too cool. I will do a full review soon.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Whatever Wednesdays-Freelancing: The First 6 Months
So, I "officially" started freelance writing regularly on Thanksgiving week of last year and thought I would do a "6 month review" and share a little about what I have learned so far. I signed up for the Yahoo! Contributor Network and submitted "Teacher Insights: Students Think Cheating is 'No Big Deal.' I was frustrated on this day because I had just shown my students a video about the UCF cheating scandal (see more information here), so writing this article became an outlet for me. It was so therapeutic, so uplifting to be able to write about something that I was passionate about (in this case, passionate about stopping!). I felt like I was DOING something, even if it was a small something. I went on to write six more articles that week and haven't stopped since with nearly 50 articles written to date with the majority through Yahoo!, my weekly "Music Matters" column for Savannah Morning News, a few for Suite101, and more through DemandMedia/Ehow.com. I'm going to quickly break down each of these outlets for you:
Yahoo! Contributor: They have an "assignment desk" where you can claim assignment titles (essentially prompts), and you get paid basically pennies per page views (I know peanuts right?!). Sometimes they pay you an upfront payment of $10 or $15 if it is a hot topic that they want claimed quickly. Your "clout level" also slowly rises based on the number of people that have read your stuff and you get paid a little more the higher your clout is. The best thing about writing for Yahoo! is that it has helped build up my portfolio and made me polish my writing and get into the habit of writing daily. I also think these pieces have helped strengthen my writing "voice." Time=about an hour per article, sometimes more for travel-related articles that have to be hyperlinked researched. I am going to apply to be a Featured Contributor for travel which means getting paid per article upfront plus by page views every time instead of sometimes, so wish me luck!
Savannah Morning News: I was writing a lot of articles about Savannah, so I figured I would see if I could get a gig writing for our local newspaper. I sent the entertainment editor a few of my Yahoo! clips, and thankfully he liked what he read and offered to let me do a trial piece for the weekly Music Summary column that ended up as my first piece about the band Lubriphonic. He even let me rename it from "Listening Notes" to "Music Matters" (get it? Music is important AND I am writing about the local "matter" aka content?) This is a set payment per week that is not very much right now, but I am hoping for more in the future, and I am so thankful that I am part of an actual print publication (although I'm sure more people read the online version...). Time=about 5-6 hours (including selecting the band to feature and conducting an interview, researching all live music venues to list who is playing where and when (the most time consuming part), and the actual story writing)
DemandMedia/Ehow.com: Demand is the umbrella company, and they serve as a hub of information for Ehow.com, Livestrong.com, and a few other outlets. They have very strict guidelines about formatting and style, and they also have an assignment desk. They pay a one time upfront fee of usually $15 per article. They also have actual editors that scrutinize your articles before publishing which is nice, and you actually have to submit a resume, and they have to "hire" you. My goal this summer is to write one of these per day...yeah that would be an extra $450 a month...SWEET. Time=about 2 hours (actual writing time probably about an hour, but searching for pictures/writing captions, and doing the revisions).
Suite101: Just like Yahoo! except no assignment desk. I rarely write for them because I already have a good sized portfolio with Yahoo! and feel like these two compete. Some of my articles I could post both places but I haven't had a chance to do that yet. I like how the articles look, and I will often do more personal articles and reviews here. I'm not sure why I do that--I guess trying to separate mushy from non-mushy?Time=about an hour per article/get paid pennies per click/pageview.
Blogger.com: I LOVE LOVE LOVE writing this daily blog. It gets me excited to wake up and start my day. Again, it is like pennies per pageview, but they pay extra if people click on the ads (that's why most blogs have ads) and even more if someone actually buys something that was linked from your blog (hence the reading suggestions via amazon that you see via the slideshow and in each post). In the research I've done, publications also like to see writers maintain a blog because it shows discipline, a willingness to self-promote, and makes you show up higher on Google and other internet searches because you always have new "stuff" out there in the internet world. Time=anywhere between 30 minutes and an hour usually.
As you can guess, I will not get rich off of freelance writing by contributing to these outlets. However, I have gained discipline, am improving my craft, and I feel accomplished, excited, and downright proud when I see my articles on actual websites or the newspaper. Ultimately, I hope any and all of this writing leads to big, wonderful things like magazine columns, novels, screenplays, travel writing...and the best part is that I feel like I'm doing what I'm meant to do. Those of you that know me might be saying, "Wait. Aren't you a teacher?" Yes, yes I am. I'm in my 4th year as an English teacher for American Literature (11th grade), Creative Writing, and Research Writing. However, like I wrote about in my recent Yahoo! article "A Teacher's Perspective: What I'm Looking Forward to for Summer Break," I feel like writing is an extension of teaching. The difference is I don't have to discipline my readers, give directions (except to beg you to share and post my stuff and leave comments/feedback!), or maintain order. I just get to share my thoughts, advice, feelings, and perspective about things I have experienced and learned. It's like the greatest teaching gig of all time! And I could do it in my pajamas every day!
But that is for a day in the future when I have earned it. Right now, I will keep writing my heart out each day before and after school, on the weekends, and sometimes even during lunch or my planning period when I'm all caught up on my grading, all the while hoping for great opportunity and a big break. I don't have it all figured out yet, but I will continue to do a "6 month review" to track my progress and stay motivated. It's nice to do some self-inventory by stopping to review everything I have done so far, but even more important? Looking ahead to where I want to go and making plans/setting goals to get there.
Yahoo! Contributor: They have an "assignment desk" where you can claim assignment titles (essentially prompts), and you get paid basically pennies per page views (I know peanuts right?!). Sometimes they pay you an upfront payment of $10 or $15 if it is a hot topic that they want claimed quickly. Your "clout level" also slowly rises based on the number of people that have read your stuff and you get paid a little more the higher your clout is. The best thing about writing for Yahoo! is that it has helped build up my portfolio and made me polish my writing and get into the habit of writing daily. I also think these pieces have helped strengthen my writing "voice." Time=about an hour per article, sometimes more for travel-related articles that have to be hyperlinked researched. I am going to apply to be a Featured Contributor for travel which means getting paid per article upfront plus by page views every time instead of sometimes, so wish me luck!
Savannah Morning News: I was writing a lot of articles about Savannah, so I figured I would see if I could get a gig writing for our local newspaper. I sent the entertainment editor a few of my Yahoo! clips, and thankfully he liked what he read and offered to let me do a trial piece for the weekly Music Summary column that ended up as my first piece about the band Lubriphonic. He even let me rename it from "Listening Notes" to "Music Matters" (get it? Music is important AND I am writing about the local "matter" aka content?) This is a set payment per week that is not very much right now, but I am hoping for more in the future, and I am so thankful that I am part of an actual print publication (although I'm sure more people read the online version...). Time=about 5-6 hours (including selecting the band to feature and conducting an interview, researching all live music venues to list who is playing where and when (the most time consuming part), and the actual story writing)
DemandMedia/Ehow.com: Demand is the umbrella company, and they serve as a hub of information for Ehow.com, Livestrong.com, and a few other outlets. They have very strict guidelines about formatting and style, and they also have an assignment desk. They pay a one time upfront fee of usually $15 per article. They also have actual editors that scrutinize your articles before publishing which is nice, and you actually have to submit a resume, and they have to "hire" you. My goal this summer is to write one of these per day...yeah that would be an extra $450 a month...SWEET. Time=about 2 hours (actual writing time probably about an hour, but searching for pictures/writing captions, and doing the revisions).
Suite101: Just like Yahoo! except no assignment desk. I rarely write for them because I already have a good sized portfolio with Yahoo! and feel like these two compete. Some of my articles I could post both places but I haven't had a chance to do that yet. I like how the articles look, and I will often do more personal articles and reviews here. I'm not sure why I do that--I guess trying to separate mushy from non-mushy?Time=about an hour per article/get paid pennies per click/pageview.
Blogger.com: I LOVE LOVE LOVE writing this daily blog. It gets me excited to wake up and start my day. Again, it is like pennies per pageview, but they pay extra if people click on the ads (that's why most blogs have ads) and even more if someone actually buys something that was linked from your blog (hence the reading suggestions via amazon that you see via the slideshow and in each post). In the research I've done, publications also like to see writers maintain a blog because it shows discipline, a willingness to self-promote, and makes you show up higher on Google and other internet searches because you always have new "stuff" out there in the internet world. Time=anywhere between 30 minutes and an hour usually.
As you can guess, I will not get rich off of freelance writing by contributing to these outlets. However, I have gained discipline, am improving my craft, and I feel accomplished, excited, and downright proud when I see my articles on actual websites or the newspaper. Ultimately, I hope any and all of this writing leads to big, wonderful things like magazine columns, novels, screenplays, travel writing...and the best part is that I feel like I'm doing what I'm meant to do. Those of you that know me might be saying, "Wait. Aren't you a teacher?" Yes, yes I am. I'm in my 4th year as an English teacher for American Literature (11th grade), Creative Writing, and Research Writing. However, like I wrote about in my recent Yahoo! article "A Teacher's Perspective: What I'm Looking Forward to for Summer Break," I feel like writing is an extension of teaching. The difference is I don't have to discipline my readers, give directions (except to beg you to share and post my stuff and leave comments/feedback!), or maintain order. I just get to share my thoughts, advice, feelings, and perspective about things I have experienced and learned. It's like the greatest teaching gig of all time! And I could do it in my pajamas every day!
But that is for a day in the future when I have earned it. Right now, I will keep writing my heart out each day before and after school, on the weekends, and sometimes even during lunch or my planning period when I'm all caught up on my grading, all the while hoping for great opportunity and a big break. I don't have it all figured out yet, but I will continue to do a "6 month review" to track my progress and stay motivated. It's nice to do some self-inventory by stopping to review everything I have done so far, but even more important? Looking ahead to where I want to go and making plans/setting goals to get there.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Taste Tuesdays-Green Truck Pub
Are organic, farm-fed, environmentally-conscious, homegrown places popping up in your neighborhood (or at least, your radar?). For me, even though both Cha Bella and Green Truck Pub have been around a little while, I only have visited them in the past month. Green Truck Pub blew me away. If you go, you have to order the hamburger (or so I'm told) as this is their bread and butter. I ordered the Rustico, a roasted red pepper and goat cheese concoction that I literally sopped up the juices from with my last little bit of hamburger bun. Honestly, I rarely order burgers because really, I always feel like there is something a little more exotic or fun I can try. My logic has always been, "I can have a hamburger at home any night of the week." This place has changed that thinking for me. Besides the fun toppings (other than the Rustico, they have 11 regular menu choices like the Greek style (olive tapenade, banana peppers, feta, and cucumbers), HAM-burger (topped with ham, swiss, dijon, and their homemade pickles), and of course classic styles like cheeseburger and bacon burgers plus a special burger of the day listed on their blackboard.
Their motto? "Some say nothing worth doing is ever easy, and we think easy food is rarely worth eating. Which is why we do simple food the hard way: from scratch." I read a review that said their homemade ketchup tasted like applesauce. Nope. It just tasted like a lighter, more pureed vegetable like sauce that is BETTER than ketchup. Yeah, I said it. Have some patience since they are making everything fresh (and I mean FRESH like the meat tasted that day made with very little grease, fat, or a bunch of seasonings--just clean, pure flavors thanks to its grass-fed start a bunch of extra stuff packed into the meat isn't necessary). While you wait, order one of the yummy craft beers they have on draft or by the bottle. I was truly impressed with this little place's beer selection. They had at least 8 on tap which they rotate, and this month they are featuring Wild Heaven Brewery from Decatur, Georgia--a very yummy Belgian-ale (anything Belgian style and I am IN!). I also liked the Founders Red's Rye PA, a very nice red (duh!) beer that had both a creaminess and a hoppy-ness to it with a little bit of spicyness.
I'm a big fan of this place if you can't tell, and I will definitely be visiting again soon. My belly's growling as I type. Down with processed food! Go out and enjoy some freshly made goods!
The New Organic Grower: A Master's Manual of Tools and Techniques for the Home and Market Gardener
Their motto? "Some say nothing worth doing is ever easy, and we think easy food is rarely worth eating. Which is why we do simple food the hard way: from scratch." I read a review that said their homemade ketchup tasted like applesauce. Nope. It just tasted like a lighter, more pureed vegetable like sauce that is BETTER than ketchup. Yeah, I said it. Have some patience since they are making everything fresh (and I mean FRESH like the meat tasted that day made with very little grease, fat, or a bunch of seasonings--just clean, pure flavors thanks to its grass-fed start a bunch of extra stuff packed into the meat isn't necessary). While you wait, order one of the yummy craft beers they have on draft or by the bottle. I was truly impressed with this little place's beer selection. They had at least 8 on tap which they rotate, and this month they are featuring Wild Heaven Brewery from Decatur, Georgia--a very yummy Belgian-ale (anything Belgian style and I am IN!). I also liked the Founders Red's Rye PA, a very nice red (duh!) beer that had both a creaminess and a hoppy-ness to it with a little bit of spicyness.
I'm a big fan of this place if you can't tell, and I will definitely be visiting again soon. My belly's growling as I type. Down with processed food! Go out and enjoy some freshly made goods!
The New Organic Grower: A Master's Manual of Tools and Techniques for the Home and Market Gardener
Monday, April 18, 2011
Double post Monday! New Yahoo! article
A peek at what I'm looking forward to this summer break:
A Teacher's Perspective: What I'm Looking Forward to for Summer Break
A Teacher's Perspective: What I'm Looking Forward to for Summer Break
Marriage Mondays-Perfect Sunday
She Said: Gary and I have different ideas about what a Perfect Sunday looks like. This weekend was the first weekend I have been home in a MONTH (!) and I wanted to have one of these "perfect" Sundays. What does that mean to me? Sleeping in, then going to brunch (or having brunch at our place, but like really do it up, eating outside, and talking for hours). Lingering over our coffee, talking about the upcoming week, and the future in general, maybe making a to-do list of what we should get done that day (or week), how we can get our house ready to sell (yes, we are going to put it on the market this year so we can move downtown!), etc. etc. Important stuff to talk about, but not in a stressful way, just in a hopeful, planning way. Then, maybe go on a long bike ride or walk with our dog, holding hands and enjoying the beautiful weather. Maybe lay out and read a little, cook an early dinner together with a few glasses of wine, and then watch a movie or catch up on television that we had DVR'ed. Just a whole day together talking, planning, laughing, and enjoying each other's company to the fullest without the distraction of the computer, cell phones, or the outside world in general. Now, don't get me wrong, I like to meet up with friends downtown and listen to live music sometimes on Sundays, but sometimes if things have been hectic (like they have been!) all I want is a full, meaningful day with Gary.
Alas, this was not the case this weekend. We stayed out way too late Saturday night, which means we slept in way too long on Sunday. We were totally exhausted the whole day, plus I had some deadlines which meant I had to write for hours on Sunday. Gary hibernated on the couch as he had worked hard in the yard/on the roof the day before (I don't even think the boy got one whiff of fresh air the whole day Sunday). Although it was a "nice" Sunday, it was nowhere near the Perfect Sunday I have in my head. And to be honest, I don't think Gary's Perfect Sunday looks like mine, so who knows if we will ever or regularly achieve vision for the idyllic Sunday that I have dancing in my brain?!?!
He Said: A "Perfect Sunday" for me really only has one major element: relaxation. Since it is the last day before the start of another hectic work week and the end of a (normally) fun-filled weekend, Sundays are a day to recover and relax. That does not mean that nothing gets done, or you just park your butt on a couch all day. Ideally, it would involve sleeping in, me making coffee and a nice breakfast and basically just easing into the day. All the housework would be in order, and our slate would be clear for whatever the day may hold. That could simply mean Shawndra and I reading books together, or cuddling on the couch enjoying a movie. Lunch would be optional, since we would have a late breakfast, so cooking an early dinner would be better. I envision Shawndra helping me do the preparations, then sitting at the table keeping me company and talking about whatever, as I cook. I'm sure that Shawndra would prefer that we actually got out of the house and accomplished something, but I would be lying if I said that that would be high on my priority list. Anything aside from walking our dog around the block seems like it gets in the way of that whole relaxation concept. We have very busy weeks, and it would be so nice to have one day where there was nothing really going on, except us spending time together unplugged from the outside world. Don't get me wrong; I enjoy going downtown to listen to music in City Market on Sundays, or going for ice cream--just not every Sunday, especially if we went out and about Friday and/or Saturday. Maybe my view of Sunday would be different if I liked my job more and did not partially dread having to wake up Monday and go through another week of deadlines and paperwork. Until that changes, I see Sundays as a day to catch up on sleep and selfishly enjoy my wife's company.
Alas, this was not the case this weekend. We stayed out way too late Saturday night, which means we slept in way too long on Sunday. We were totally exhausted the whole day, plus I had some deadlines which meant I had to write for hours on Sunday. Gary hibernated on the couch as he had worked hard in the yard/on the roof the day before (I don't even think the boy got one whiff of fresh air the whole day Sunday). Although it was a "nice" Sunday, it was nowhere near the Perfect Sunday I have in my head. And to be honest, I don't think Gary's Perfect Sunday looks like mine, so who knows if we will ever or regularly achieve vision for the idyllic Sunday that I have dancing in my brain?!?!
He Said: A "Perfect Sunday" for me really only has one major element: relaxation. Since it is the last day before the start of another hectic work week and the end of a (normally) fun-filled weekend, Sundays are a day to recover and relax. That does not mean that nothing gets done, or you just park your butt on a couch all day. Ideally, it would involve sleeping in, me making coffee and a nice breakfast and basically just easing into the day. All the housework would be in order, and our slate would be clear for whatever the day may hold. That could simply mean Shawndra and I reading books together, or cuddling on the couch enjoying a movie. Lunch would be optional, since we would have a late breakfast, so cooking an early dinner would be better. I envision Shawndra helping me do the preparations, then sitting at the table keeping me company and talking about whatever, as I cook. I'm sure that Shawndra would prefer that we actually got out of the house and accomplished something, but I would be lying if I said that that would be high on my priority list. Anything aside from walking our dog around the block seems like it gets in the way of that whole relaxation concept. We have very busy weeks, and it would be so nice to have one day where there was nothing really going on, except us spending time together unplugged from the outside world. Don't get me wrong; I enjoy going downtown to listen to music in City Market on Sundays, or going for ice cream--just not every Sunday, especially if we went out and about Friday and/or Saturday. Maybe my view of Sunday would be different if I liked my job more and did not partially dread having to wake up Monday and go through another week of deadlines and paperwork. Until that changes, I see Sundays as a day to catch up on sleep and selfishly enjoy my wife's company.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Sightseeing Sundays-Ormond Wine Co.
So my friend and partner Rachel (check out her gorgeous stuff at www.rachelmcotton.com) is a big believer in synchronicity--the idea of "God whispers" aka the universe speaking to you. When something, someone, some idea, etc. keeps showing up again and again in your life, pay attention! What has been showing up in my life recently is Ormond Wine Co. This wonderful place in Ormond Beach, Florida where my parents have a little beach house (no, they aren't super-duper rich folks, my dad just works really, really hard and capitalized on the floundering Florida housing market) is absolutely stunning--although to be honest, it's in a questionable location as it is part of a "plaza" that houses a gas station--ughh! No matter--this place is one of my favorite on the planet; every time we go down to the house, we stop at this place. They have build your own 6 packs of craft beer, charging retail by the bottle. So, you can get delicious (yet usually pricey) craft beers that in the bar cost between $8-$12 for no more than $4. Grab it, take it home, and cook up a steak on the grill with your yummy belgium-style Piraat.
On top of their fabulous beers, Ormond Wine Co. also has an enomatic wine dispenser. If you haven't seen one of these bad boys, you gotta put it on your to-do list. Basically, the system holds wine bottles upside down and "aerates" the wine so you can grab a glass, insert your rechargeable wine debit card, push the little button, and do your own wine tasting for between $1-$4 per 2 ounce pour. You can try $100 bottle of wine that you probably would never buy or order for this dirt-cheap price AND have a blast doing so. I have never seen another of these dispensers anywhere else, and I want one in my house pronto! (ha!) They also have sumptuous deep leather chairs, exposed brick, and shelves and shelves of glorious wine. They do live music on Fridays and offer tasty culinary treats like duck flatbread, a heavenly cheese platter (pick your own three; perhaps the Drunken Goat?!), specialty salads, and paninis like their Ancho Steak. I love love love this place, and my dream would be to open one up just like it in Savannah with friends (my husband would run it and I would write my heart out all day, every day). Gotta dream big, right?
On top of their fabulous beers, Ormond Wine Co. also has an enomatic wine dispenser. If you haven't seen one of these bad boys, you gotta put it on your to-do list. Basically, the system holds wine bottles upside down and "aerates" the wine so you can grab a glass, insert your rechargeable wine debit card, push the little button, and do your own wine tasting for between $1-$4 per 2 ounce pour. You can try $100 bottle of wine that you probably would never buy or order for this dirt-cheap price AND have a blast doing so. I have never seen another of these dispensers anywhere else, and I want one in my house pronto! (ha!) They also have sumptuous deep leather chairs, exposed brick, and shelves and shelves of glorious wine. They do live music on Fridays and offer tasty culinary treats like duck flatbread, a heavenly cheese platter (pick your own three; perhaps the Drunken Goat?!), specialty salads, and paninis like their Ancho Steak. I love love love this place, and my dream would be to open one up just like it in Savannah with friends (my husband would run it and I would write my heart out all day, every day). Gotta dream big, right?
Saturday, April 16, 2011
Savannah Saturdays-Brunch Date!
This is the first weekend I have been home to sleep in, wake up in my own bed, and not have anything to get up for. It's fabulous! As my wonderful hubby makes us a big brunch, I thought I would share my article about some of the best brunches in Savannah. Where's your favorite brunch (even if you are not a Savannahian?).
Best Brunches in Savannah, Georgia
Best Brunches in Savannah, Georgia
Friday, April 15, 2011
Fiction Friday-Kindred by Octavia Butler
We are wrapping up Kindred in my classroom, and I think it has been a success. Many of the students said they enjoyed it, and those that have read ahead and finished the book said that they are kind of mad about the ending--any book that gets you mad, sad, or happy (ideally all three) is a good book in my opinion. Kindred is about Dana, a black woman living in the 1970's in California, and she is newly married to a white man, Kevin, who is a little bit older than her and sometimes is blind to the prejudices around him. His rationale is that since they were able to get married, it shows how far race relations have come (which of course is still not enough). Dana for whatever reason begins time traveling not by her own power--literally she will disappear and reappear in 1800's in Maryland. The time travel is never explained, but it's just a vehicle for Butler to discuss slavery in a fresh way. Many of my students said, "Oh man...more stuff about slavery? I feel like that's all we ever learn about in school--that and the Holocaust." Maybe education does focus too much on these horrific topics, but the great thing about Kindred is that even those kids who griped at first admitted that they had never read or thought about slavery quite like the way Butler shows it through Dana's eyes and pain as a free black woman from the future that gets treated, scolded, belittled, and beaten like a slave every time she suddenly transports back to the 1800's.
One of Butler's main messages is that of acceptance--in most of her novels, she puts people that society sometimes doesn't think fit together (black and white, old and young, same gender, etc.) and make them figure out how to relate to each other and focus on their similarities rather than their differences. We are all human, and therefore we have a common thread that should make us not have hatred, prejudice, cruelty, or meanness towards other humans (even animals---really anything living). Butler's topics of love, acceptance, the concept of home, purpose, and even our connections to our ancestors and the past all come to the surface of this novel and make you reflect on your own behavior, attitude, and interaction with others. Any book that urges you to be a better person deserves a thorough read, and you won't be disappointed in this simply written yet powerfully moving novel that made Butler known for creating science fiction with a heart--full of the complexities of human relationships and that most mysterious being--our heart.
One of Butler's main messages is that of acceptance--in most of her novels, she puts people that society sometimes doesn't think fit together (black and white, old and young, same gender, etc.) and make them figure out how to relate to each other and focus on their similarities rather than their differences. We are all human, and therefore we have a common thread that should make us not have hatred, prejudice, cruelty, or meanness towards other humans (even animals---really anything living). Butler's topics of love, acceptance, the concept of home, purpose, and even our connections to our ancestors and the past all come to the surface of this novel and make you reflect on your own behavior, attitude, and interaction with others. Any book that urges you to be a better person deserves a thorough read, and you won't be disappointed in this simply written yet powerfully moving novel that made Butler known for creating science fiction with a heart--full of the complexities of human relationships and that most mysterious being--our heart.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Tune Thursdays-William Fitzsimmons
Click HERE for William Fitzsimmons article! This guy is wicked-smart and we are PSYCHED to go to the show this Saturday!
Previous Savannah Morning News Music Matters articles:
Previous Savannah Morning News Music Matters articles:
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
WHATEVER WEDNESDAY-Winner announced!
The drawing will take place via video and be posted by 8pm tonight. This means you have less than 12 hours to hit "follow" and leave a comment to enter your name for a $25 gift card and free copy of our book, Barstinations, due out February 2012. PLEASE SHOW THE LOVE friends, family, and anyone who has ever glanced at my blog! You may help us seal a book deal (the more readers, the more dollar signs a potential publishing house will see!). There are still some of you out there that are being shy...don't make me beg ;)
It's also time to vote for the annual "Best of Savannah;" there are actually TWO businesses running Best ofs...(say what?). If you feel so inclined, consider voting for Cavanaugh Lee for best local author and her book, Save As Draft for best book; Bryan @ Bernie's for best bartender; *me* for best local blogger or columnist; Rachel M Cotton for best local artist (she is also my partner for Barstinations); Kyle Bladergroen for best firefighter; umm....I think that is all my plugs for now HAHA!
Here is Connect Savannah's link to vote: http://php.connectsavannah.com/surveys/phpQ/fillsurvey.php?sid=19
Here is Savannah Magazine's link to vote: http://www.savannahmagazine.com/articles/2011-best-of-savannah-e-ballot
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
*Email me your mailing address to shawndra@barstinations.com*
It's also time to vote for the annual "Best of Savannah;" there are actually TWO businesses running Best ofs...(say what?). If you feel so inclined, consider voting for Cavanaugh Lee for best local author and her book, Save As Draft for best book; Bryan @ Bernie's for best bartender; *me* for best local blogger or columnist; Rachel M Cotton for best local artist (she is also my partner for Barstinations); Kyle Bladergroen for best firefighter; umm....I think that is all my plugs for now HAHA!
Here is Connect Savannah's link to vote: http://php.connectsavannah.com/surveys/phpQ/fillsurvey.php?sid=19
Here is Savannah Magazine's link to vote: http://www.savannahmagazine.com/articles/2011-best-of-savannah-e-ballot
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
*Email me your mailing address to shawndra@barstinations.com*
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Taste Tuesdays-Southend Brewery in Charleston, South Carolina
ONE DAY LEFT TO REGISTER FOR BLOG CONTEST!!! YOU COULD WIN $25 AND A COPY OF OUR BOOK BARSTINATIONS (due out February 2012)!!!
Southend Brewery is located in the Wagner Building circa 1880 that used to serve as store and warehouse of F.W. Wagner who dealt in "cotton, rice, naval stores, wholesale groceries, fertilizers, liquors , tobaccos cotton gins, coffee mills and assorted other items, and manufactured cotton presses" according to their website. The have ambitious goals with a three story building mostly housed in glass so you can see the huge steel and copper brew tanks inside, with the bottom floor serving as a traditional restaurant, middle floor having pool tables and darts for a more bar-like atmosphere, and the third floor supplying banquet space. The beer flight is the best I have EVER experienced as they pour 8 generous glasses (at least 5 oz.) of their brews for only $9. They serve them on a tray that has circles outlined with the type of beer printed inside the circle that the glasses are placed on so you always know what you are drinking (one of my chief complaints of other flights that don't provide a description--like you are going to just remember what each one is?!). All the beers were tasty and I liked them all--even the stout which I am not typically a fan of. They all tended to be lighter, crisper versions of their type, and the flight includes: "Blonde Light, Blonde, Ironman Wheat, Scarlet, Bombay Pale Ale, East Bay Brown, Oatmeal Stout, and Seasonal Brew" (http://southendbrewery.com/New_Southend_Menu_.pdf) I love love loved this place and plan on returning many times--besides the ingenious beer flight presentation, the turkey, brie and berry sandwich we ordered was delicious, and their menu choices were a step up from typical pub fare with "Smokehouse" entrees, sandwiches, wood-fired pizzas, and plenty of southern influence. Voted #1 microbrewery in the South, you will not be disappointed in your Southend Brewery experience. http://www.southendbrewery.com/
Southend Brewery is located in the Wagner Building circa 1880 that used to serve as store and warehouse of F.W. Wagner who dealt in "cotton, rice, naval stores, wholesale groceries, fertilizers, liquors , tobaccos cotton gins, coffee mills and assorted other items, and manufactured cotton presses" according to their website. The have ambitious goals with a three story building mostly housed in glass so you can see the huge steel and copper brew tanks inside, with the bottom floor serving as a traditional restaurant, middle floor having pool tables and darts for a more bar-like atmosphere, and the third floor supplying banquet space. The beer flight is the best I have EVER experienced as they pour 8 generous glasses (at least 5 oz.) of their brews for only $9. They serve them on a tray that has circles outlined with the type of beer printed inside the circle that the glasses are placed on so you always know what you are drinking (one of my chief complaints of other flights that don't provide a description--like you are going to just remember what each one is?!). All the beers were tasty and I liked them all--even the stout which I am not typically a fan of. They all tended to be lighter, crisper versions of their type, and the flight includes: "Blonde Light, Blonde, Ironman Wheat, Scarlet, Bombay Pale Ale, East Bay Brown, Oatmeal Stout, and Seasonal Brew" (http://southendbrewery.com/New_Southend_Menu_.pdf) I love love loved this place and plan on returning many times--besides the ingenious beer flight presentation, the turkey, brie and berry sandwich we ordered was delicious, and their menu choices were a step up from typical pub fare with "Smokehouse" entrees, sandwiches, wood-fired pizzas, and plenty of southern influence. Voted #1 microbrewery in the South, you will not be disappointed in your Southend Brewery experience. http://www.southendbrewery.com/
Monday, April 11, 2011
Marriage Mondays-Respect vs. Love
TWO DAYS LEFT FOR BLOG CONTEST!!!!!
He said:
What one man deems as respect could be totally different for another. The same can be said for the definition of love amongst women. For example, some men want to take care of all the financial responsibilities, and make the majority of decisions when money is involved. If a woman allows him to do this, then he sees that as a sign of respect. Nowadays, with more women becoming joint-breadwinners, there has been a shift in this philosophy. So, the respect factor would have to come from some other mode if the woman figured out most of the finances. It's not rocket science, but it does take a lot of communication and understanding from both sides to be effective. In other words, don't tell him/her what you think that they would want to here you say. Tell them what would really make you feel loved or respected. Regarding love and respect, these two concepts can be tough to restore, especially if you REALLY mess up. It takes time, too, for all wounds to heal (cue the soft jazz in the background), and if these are lacking in your relationship, it could take a long time to restore. That is not meant to discourage you, but to challenge you. So in recap, wives need love, and husbands need respect. Take the time to find out what that means to your spouse, and stick to it.
She said:
Take the "D" word (divorce) off the table. If both people are committed to the marriage and love and respect, throwing the "D" word around should be prohibited. Early on in our marriage when I got mad, this word flew out a few times and the look of pain and the damage it did was nearly irreparable. So just don't say it. It destroys both the respect your partner has for you and then they feel that you don't respect them either. Obviously, it also doesn't convey any love and can seriously damage your love for days, weeks, months, and maybe even years. To make a marriage work, the respect and love trains have to be completely full and running smoothly (although bumps in the road are inevitable); just by focusing on these two elements, you will make the right decisions more often and have a happier, healthier marriage as a whole.
He said:
What one man deems as respect could be totally different for another. The same can be said for the definition of love amongst women. For example, some men want to take care of all the financial responsibilities, and make the majority of decisions when money is involved. If a woman allows him to do this, then he sees that as a sign of respect. Nowadays, with more women becoming joint-breadwinners, there has been a shift in this philosophy. So, the respect factor would have to come from some other mode if the woman figured out most of the finances. It's not rocket science, but it does take a lot of communication and understanding from both sides to be effective. In other words, don't tell him/her what you think that they would want to here you say. Tell them what would really make you feel loved or respected. Regarding love and respect, these two concepts can be tough to restore, especially if you REALLY mess up. It takes time, too, for all wounds to heal (cue the soft jazz in the background), and if these are lacking in your relationship, it could take a long time to restore. That is not meant to discourage you, but to challenge you. So in recap, wives need love, and husbands need respect. Take the time to find out what that means to your spouse, and stick to it.
She said:
Take the "D" word (divorce) off the table. If both people are committed to the marriage and love and respect, throwing the "D" word around should be prohibited. Early on in our marriage when I got mad, this word flew out a few times and the look of pain and the damage it did was nearly irreparable. So just don't say it. It destroys both the respect your partner has for you and then they feel that you don't respect them either. Obviously, it also doesn't convey any love and can seriously damage your love for days, weeks, months, and maybe even years. To make a marriage work, the respect and love trains have to be completely full and running smoothly (although bumps in the road are inevitable); just by focusing on these two elements, you will make the right decisions more often and have a happier, healthier marriage as a whole.
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Sightseeing Sundays-Charleston, South Carolina
THREE DAYS LEFT TO ENTER MY BLOG CONTEST!!!!
My mom and sister are in town for a girls' weekend/Mom's birthday present/Mother's Day/My mom rocks because she is a breast cancer survivor...so we went to Charleston, South Carolina for the weekend. Although my loyalty is to Savannah, Charleston is a truly beautiful city, and although it's called Savannah's "Sister City," it really is the crisper, fresher, and seemingly wealthier version of Savannah (although much less historical visually and with less character and intriguing flaws and pockets).
Charleston trolleys/horse carriages have developed a unique number system that correlates to the four-part grid that Charleston has been divided in to. You hop on the vehicle with no idea which quadrant you will go in--it's a lottery partially designed to help the flow of traffic with their hidden agenda obviously being to get you to take multiple rides in hopes to see different parts of the city. A neat, organized concept, but if you have your heart set on seeing a certain part of the city, don't take your chances with this system. We pulled number 3 (I think) which lead us to a beautiful residential area that puts any other street I have ever been on to shame.
The food is also top quality. Check out Cru Cafe--a perfect lunch spot that is an old house converted into a restaurant. There are tons of restaurants to choose from, and one very cool aspect of Charleston is that there are a lot of rooftop restaurants and bar/restaurants like at the Vendue Inn or Pavilion Bar & Grille. For a cheap and informative stop, hit the Daughters of the Confederacy museum with tons of artifacts crammed into one little room. Immediately below this museum is the famous Open Air Market where you can browse artwork and craft made by local artists.
Whatever you do, make sure you check out Battery Park with a view of the ocean and the two nearby forts across the water. It's like a little Central Park on the coast with people hanging out by the fountains (and sometimes running through to cool off!), playing with their dogs, and picnicking or studying. If you enjoy this local scene, make sure to hang out on East Bay also as these are the restaurants and bars that the locals love. Of course, shoppers should enjoy King's Street as well with some high quality (and price) stores on the strip.
Have fun and slow down--you are in the South now.
My mom and sister are in town for a girls' weekend/Mom's birthday present/Mother's Day/My mom rocks because she is a breast cancer survivor...so we went to Charleston, South Carolina for the weekend. Although my loyalty is to Savannah, Charleston is a truly beautiful city, and although it's called Savannah's "Sister City," it really is the crisper, fresher, and seemingly wealthier version of Savannah (although much less historical visually and with less character and intriguing flaws and pockets).
Charleston trolleys/horse carriages have developed a unique number system that correlates to the four-part grid that Charleston has been divided in to. You hop on the vehicle with no idea which quadrant you will go in--it's a lottery partially designed to help the flow of traffic with their hidden agenda obviously being to get you to take multiple rides in hopes to see different parts of the city. A neat, organized concept, but if you have your heart set on seeing a certain part of the city, don't take your chances with this system. We pulled number 3 (I think) which lead us to a beautiful residential area that puts any other street I have ever been on to shame.
The food is also top quality. Check out Cru Cafe--a perfect lunch spot that is an old house converted into a restaurant. There are tons of restaurants to choose from, and one very cool aspect of Charleston is that there are a lot of rooftop restaurants and bar/restaurants like at the Vendue Inn or Pavilion Bar & Grille. For a cheap and informative stop, hit the Daughters of the Confederacy museum with tons of artifacts crammed into one little room. Immediately below this museum is the famous Open Air Market where you can browse artwork and craft made by local artists.
Whatever you do, make sure you check out Battery Park with a view of the ocean and the two nearby forts across the water. It's like a little Central Park on the coast with people hanging out by the fountains (and sometimes running through to cool off!), playing with their dogs, and picnicking or studying. If you enjoy this local scene, make sure to hang out on East Bay also as these are the restaurants and bars that the locals love. Of course, shoppers should enjoy King's Street as well with some high quality (and price) stores on the strip.
Have fun and slow down--you are in the South now.
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Savannah Saturdays-New Yahoo! article: A Resident's Guide to Visiting Savannah
Check it out! I actually got paid a little money for this one (instead of the pennies paid per clicks for most of the Yahoo! articles I create!).
Click this title to read: A Resident's Guide to Visiting Savannah, Georgia
Click this title to read: A Resident's Guide to Visiting Savannah, Georgia
Friday, April 8, 2011
Fiction Fridays-The Scent of Rain and Lightning by Nancy Pickard
I am a sucker for good titles...and this one grabbed me for the vivid imagery that just those six little words together creates. Then you throw in the instant thematic connection that water and storms have for rebirth and renewal, and I had to read this book. I am so glad I did because Pickard truly wrote a beautiful, heartbreaking novel that initially reads like it will just be a family saga and quickly develops into a twisting, disturbing mystery and crime thriller. I do not gravitate toward crime-focused literature, but this novel is written in such a poetic way and with so much emotion that you can't help but empathize with all of the victims that have been lied to for nearly 25 years.
The main character Jody's world is turned upside down in the first chapter, just as she is finishing a romp with her current love interest. Thinking that the novel would mostly be about their relationship (he wanted more, he works for her family, she uses him for companionship and sex, but doesn't love him), it quickly escalates into a "whodunit" mystery with nearly everyone Jody has ever known and loved serving as a suspect for the murder of her parents that she thought was a sealed-and-shut case way back when that reopens when the man convicted is finally released early from jail.
Pickard examines human nature and the impossibility of a perfect person or perfectly lived life by showing the good people do bad things (good little Jody having a secret lover, her seemingly womanizing uncle Chase actually having a heart of gold) and bad people occassionally do good things. The layering that Pickard creates for each character no matter how minor they are makes this small town, powerful family at the heart of the storyline appear as both heroes and tyrants or bullies and best friends to the rest of their hometown. You will be shocked by the ending and the relationship between beauty and tragedy that can draw people together or force them apart forever.
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*4.5/5 stars*
The main character Jody's world is turned upside down in the first chapter, just as she is finishing a romp with her current love interest. Thinking that the novel would mostly be about their relationship (he wanted more, he works for her family, she uses him for companionship and sex, but doesn't love him), it quickly escalates into a "whodunit" mystery with nearly everyone Jody has ever known and loved serving as a suspect for the murder of her parents that she thought was a sealed-and-shut case way back when that reopens when the man convicted is finally released early from jail.
Pickard examines human nature and the impossibility of a perfect person or perfectly lived life by showing the good people do bad things (good little Jody having a secret lover, her seemingly womanizing uncle Chase actually having a heart of gold) and bad people occassionally do good things. The layering that Pickard creates for each character no matter how minor they are makes this small town, powerful family at the heart of the storyline appear as both heroes and tyrants or bullies and best friends to the rest of their hometown. You will be shocked by the ending and the relationship between beauty and tragedy that can draw people together or force them apart forever.
ALSO DON'T FORGET TO ENTER MY BLOG FOLLOWER CONTEST! Click HERE for details.
*4.5/5 stars*
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Tune Thursdays-Savannah Morning News article JuBee and the Morning After
Check out JuBee and the Morning After, being labeled a new genre, "Hipster Hop":
Past Savannah Morning News "Music Matters" articles:
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Whatever Wednesdays-ONE WEEK EXTENSION FOR CONTEST!
In hindsight, I probably should have made the contest a LITTLE longer to give people time to catch up on my blog if they haven't or just have a busy week or whatever. So, I am going to extend the contest ONE MORE WEEK....If you have entered already, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU, and I am sorry for the extension. If you haven't done so, here's how to enter:
1. Scroll down and click the "Follow" button on the right hand side. It will ask you your name and to fill in one of those crazy letter things to make sure you are human.
2. Make one comment on any post I have ever written. You can search topics that you are interested in using the Google search bar above this post.
That's it! Your name will be added to the drawing for $25 gift card and a copy of our first book, Savannah Barstinations. We have a publishing house interested, so no matter what, this book is getting made!!!!! It is slated to be released in February of 2012.
THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!! Roger, still waiting for you to "follow" :)
1. Scroll down and click the "Follow" button on the right hand side. It will ask you your name and to fill in one of those crazy letter things to make sure you are human.
2. Make one comment on any post I have ever written. You can search topics that you are interested in using the Google search bar above this post.
That's it! Your name will be added to the drawing for $25 gift card and a copy of our first book, Savannah Barstinations. We have a publishing house interested, so no matter what, this book is getting made!!!!! It is slated to be released in February of 2012.
THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!! Roger, still waiting for you to "follow" :)
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
DOUBLE POST TUESDAY!!! Book news!!!
Hey everyone,
Just had to let you know that we have someone interested in publishing our book! Nothing is finalized yet, but good things are happening!!! As my facebook status says, keep your fingers, toes, and anything else you can cross, crossed for us!!! I will keep you posted (I just made a pun!).
For now, check out our website-in-progress:
http://savannahbarstinations.wordpress.com/
Just had to let you know that we have someone interested in publishing our book! Nothing is finalized yet, but good things are happening!!! As my facebook status says, keep your fingers, toes, and anything else you can cross, crossed for us!!! I will keep you posted (I just made a pun!).
For now, check out our website-in-progress:
http://savannahbarstinations.wordpress.com/
Taste Tuesdays-Wasabi's Fusion
So tonight we are going to Wasabi's, a sushi place downtown and my mouth is watering just thinking about it. Gary and I hadn't really had much sushi before we moved to Savannah, but now we have it at least once a month. I want to take a class on how to make it too--how cool would that be?! (side note: I always think of that scene in Sex and the City--move #1--when Samantha makes sushi at home for Smith--hilarious!) Anyway, if you haven't tried sushi, Wasabi's is probably the best in town with its competitor for #1 challenged by Sushi Time Towa in Southside. If you don't live in Savannah, make it your mission this month to try some! You could even just go to Kroger or Publix and pick up their sushi--we get some every time we go grocery shopping. My favorite is eel (of course, it's the most fattening of sushi aside from stuff that is fried or temperua, which I don't like that stuff anyway). If you aren't ready to go that bold, just go for some type of crab roll or go REALLY wussy and try a philadelphia roll. Rolls are my favorite, but I like nigiri style too (piece of fish on top of a small ball of rice). Someone's getting hungry :)
Wasabi's
113 Martin Luther King Junior Boulevard
Savannah, GA 31401-3209
Other articles about food:
Restaurant Quality Wings at Home
Fat Tuesday Purple Tea
Losing Weight in 2010: What Worked and What Didn’t For Me
Wasabi's
113 Martin Luther King Junior Boulevard
Savannah, GA 31401-3209
Other articles about food:
Restaurant Quality Wings at Home
Fat Tuesday Purple Tea
Losing Weight in 2010: What Worked and What Didn’t For Me
Monday, April 4, 2011
Marriage Mondays-Is It OK to be Selfish Sometimes?
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She said: When you are part of a relationship, you want to feel like that other person is always taking into account your thoughts, feelings, and wants in every decision and action they make (well, at least I do, and I think many women feel the same way). This weekend, I left at 11am on Friday and returned around 4pm Sunday for a volleyball tournament in Charlotte. Essentially, I had no weekend, and no free time to have fun (coaching is fun for me during the games, but that was only about 6 hours of the entire weekend). So, when I got home Sunday, I wanted to do something FUN, something I wanted to do since my whole weekend was dictated by someone else's schedule. I asked my husband to go on a bike ride, walk, picnic, the beach...something to take advantage of the beautiful weather. Yet, he had just played two flag football games and was sore and stiff. I quickly got my feelings hurt because I thought my wants should take top priority since I worked all weekend while he got to do what he wanted to do, when he wanted to do it. Yet, he was tired, cranky, and just not into any of my suggestions. I guess we could both be called selfish in this case because we both wanted to do what we wanted. I wanted to spend time with him doing something fun of my choosing (but I would have been open to suggestions--still wanting the final say though!), and he wanted to lay on the couch and do nothing. He won because he got to lay on the couch, while I went on a solo bike ride and watched a chick flick that he probably would have scoffed at anyway. So, I am still licking my wounds today. I hate Mondays--especially after I didn't even have a weekend AND we aren't getting along :(
He said: In an ideal world, there would be no room for selfishness. Some would say that sacrifice is the better teacher because there is a greater life lesson to be learned by denying yourself to satisfy others first. But let's face it: this is not an ideal world. This is an age where both spouses work full time jobs, where date nights with friends are almost as important as those with your significant other (almost could be too strong of a word), and where free time is hot commodity. Balance is the key to stabilize the hectic pace of life that most of us are experiencing, but it also needed when selfishness is involved in a relationship. For example, when one person is being selfish, there really is not a problem. If you truly love someone, chances are you are going to oblige them and satisfy that selfish impulse. The problem lies when both parties are riding on the selfish train. And worse yet is when you both are riding separate trains that are seemingly going to collide, rather than link up and travel together. The latter was the case this weekend. My wife left Friday to go to Charlotte and coach a fourteen year old girl's volleyball team. She would not return until Sunday afternoon. To top it off, she had just gone to the doctor and was feeling pretty awful for most her time away form home. That being said, we initially decided to take it easy when she returned--have dinner, watch a movie, go to bed. As it turns out, after playing two flag football games on Sunday that schedule was exactly what I needed, too. I love playing football, but my body hates the aftermath--sore everything. So, when my wife called me on her way home, she was feeling much better health-wise, and was chomping at the bit to be outside enjoying the beautiful weather. I'm not going to lie: this caught me off guard, and frankly my legs wanted no part of a bike ride, a drive to the beach, or anything other than some rest and relaxation. I understood that she was cooped up all weekend, dealing with kids, their parents, and illness. I also understood that I would really not be any fun outside of the couch. This is where our trains collided. Normally, we compromise well together. This was just one of those times where we wanted, and needed, totally different things. The killer was that we had so much time apart and wanted to be together; however, neither party was willing to agree on how that time was to be spent. Needless to say, it did not end well. We spent the rest of Sunday, derailed from each other's company. I regret the lost time together, especially on the verge of another hectic week; yet, I feel that this was just a stumbling block, and that we will be back on track sooner than later.
She said: When you are part of a relationship, you want to feel like that other person is always taking into account your thoughts, feelings, and wants in every decision and action they make (well, at least I do, and I think many women feel the same way). This weekend, I left at 11am on Friday and returned around 4pm Sunday for a volleyball tournament in Charlotte. Essentially, I had no weekend, and no free time to have fun (coaching is fun for me during the games, but that was only about 6 hours of the entire weekend). So, when I got home Sunday, I wanted to do something FUN, something I wanted to do since my whole weekend was dictated by someone else's schedule. I asked my husband to go on a bike ride, walk, picnic, the beach...something to take advantage of the beautiful weather. Yet, he had just played two flag football games and was sore and stiff. I quickly got my feelings hurt because I thought my wants should take top priority since I worked all weekend while he got to do what he wanted to do, when he wanted to do it. Yet, he was tired, cranky, and just not into any of my suggestions. I guess we could both be called selfish in this case because we both wanted to do what we wanted. I wanted to spend time with him doing something fun of my choosing (but I would have been open to suggestions--still wanting the final say though!), and he wanted to lay on the couch and do nothing. He won because he got to lay on the couch, while I went on a solo bike ride and watched a chick flick that he probably would have scoffed at anyway. So, I am still licking my wounds today. I hate Mondays--especially after I didn't even have a weekend AND we aren't getting along :(
He said: In an ideal world, there would be no room for selfishness. Some would say that sacrifice is the better teacher because there is a greater life lesson to be learned by denying yourself to satisfy others first. But let's face it: this is not an ideal world. This is an age where both spouses work full time jobs, where date nights with friends are almost as important as those with your significant other (almost could be too strong of a word), and where free time is hot commodity. Balance is the key to stabilize the hectic pace of life that most of us are experiencing, but it also needed when selfishness is involved in a relationship. For example, when one person is being selfish, there really is not a problem. If you truly love someone, chances are you are going to oblige them and satisfy that selfish impulse. The problem lies when both parties are riding on the selfish train. And worse yet is when you both are riding separate trains that are seemingly going to collide, rather than link up and travel together. The latter was the case this weekend. My wife left Friday to go to Charlotte and coach a fourteen year old girl's volleyball team. She would not return until Sunday afternoon. To top it off, she had just gone to the doctor and was feeling pretty awful for most her time away form home. That being said, we initially decided to take it easy when she returned--have dinner, watch a movie, go to bed. As it turns out, after playing two flag football games on Sunday that schedule was exactly what I needed, too. I love playing football, but my body hates the aftermath--sore everything. So, when my wife called me on her way home, she was feeling much better health-wise, and was chomping at the bit to be outside enjoying the beautiful weather. I'm not going to lie: this caught me off guard, and frankly my legs wanted no part of a bike ride, a drive to the beach, or anything other than some rest and relaxation. I understood that she was cooped up all weekend, dealing with kids, their parents, and illness. I also understood that I would really not be any fun outside of the couch. This is where our trains collided. Normally, we compromise well together. This was just one of those times where we wanted, and needed, totally different things. The killer was that we had so much time apart and wanted to be together; however, neither party was willing to agree on how that time was to be spent. Needless to say, it did not end well. We spent the rest of Sunday, derailed from each other's company. I regret the lost time together, especially on the verge of another hectic week; yet, I feel that this was just a stumbling block, and that we will be back on track sooner than later.
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Sightseeing Sundays-Charlotte, North Carolina
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Although I didn't get to see much of the city, Charlotte is a very cool place--clean, lots to see and do, and has some great restaurants. I recommend Luce Ristorante e Bar; I placed a take-out order because I have been sick all week and just wanted to sit in my hotel room and look at the skyline while I ate alone (I was in town coaching a volleyball tournament for my 14 year old team). Anyway, when I placed my order for their Linguine Sinfonia del Mare and they said the total would be $26, I told them that in the guidebook I was using, America's Cuisine, listed the meal at only $18, they gave me the meal, Pellegrino water, and bread for only $20. I was pretty pleased with their service and willingness to budge their menu price. The mixture of clams, squid, scallops (the best part), and shrimp with a light and very slightly sweet cherry tomato and perperoncino sauce. I stopped and bought a glass of red wine from the hotel bar and had a great solo meal thanks to Luce. On my way to the restaurant, I saw live music on several corners, tons of bars I want to try next time I'm in town like Prohibition and RiRa's Irish pub (I'm a sucker for any Irish pub). They really push their cuisine with their website cuisineofcharlotte.com. This city, nicknamed "the Queen's City," does tend to lean towards the more expensive (they call part of their downtown "Uptown"), but there are plenty of budget options too.
Although I didn't get to see much of the city, Charlotte is a very cool place--clean, lots to see and do, and has some great restaurants. I recommend Luce Ristorante e Bar; I placed a take-out order because I have been sick all week and just wanted to sit in my hotel room and look at the skyline while I ate alone (I was in town coaching a volleyball tournament for my 14 year old team). Anyway, when I placed my order for their Linguine Sinfonia del Mare and they said the total would be $26, I told them that in the guidebook I was using, America's Cuisine, listed the meal at only $18, they gave me the meal, Pellegrino water, and bread for only $20. I was pretty pleased with their service and willingness to budge their menu price. The mixture of clams, squid, scallops (the best part), and shrimp with a light and very slightly sweet cherry tomato and perperoncino sauce. I stopped and bought a glass of red wine from the hotel bar and had a great solo meal thanks to Luce. On my way to the restaurant, I saw live music on several corners, tons of bars I want to try next time I'm in town like Prohibition and RiRa's Irish pub (I'm a sucker for any Irish pub). They really push their cuisine with their website cuisineofcharlotte.com. This city, nicknamed "the Queen's City," does tend to lean towards the more expensive (they call part of their downtown "Uptown"), but there are plenty of budget options too.
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Savannah Saturdays-Abe's on Lincoln
Abe's on Lincoln, formerly WG's, makes all who enter lose their inhibitions and have great, epic conversations. Maybe it's the dim lighting, or low ceilings, small space or mismatched and cozy tables and chairs. Maybe because truly their is nothing else to do BUT talk and look around at this cool spot. Maybe because the drinks are a good price and the bartenders are generous (and usually working solo, which means be patient and also, be friendly--they want to have some fun too!). Whatever the magical formula is, ever time I go to this bar, I have a blast and forge deeper bonds with new and old friends. In fact, we actually randomly met one of our favorite couples on the planet last year on our 6th anniversary at Abe's as they were in town visiting from Miami. Totally random, yet totally Abe's. With a name like Abe's on Lincoln, you know its gotta be cool.
17 Lincoln Street Savannah, GA 31401, (912) 349-0525, and on Facebook
Friday, April 1, 2011
Fiction Fridays-29 by Adena Halpern
Had to share this (unrelated to fiction Fridays): Cutest picture EVER courtesy of Bing: http://www.bing.com/?pc=Z002&form=ZGAPHP
Today is my first day reviewing a book for SingleMindedWomen.com, a site that partially focuses on books for women. They have a "to-read" list that they haven't yet written reviews about, and they ask bloggers like me to read and review these books. My first book is 29 by Adena Halpern, and although there are a few aspects I thought could have been more polished, I DID cry at the end, which by my standards means overall, the book is worth reading. I am a sucker for the theme of regret, and Halpern does a good job of showing the devastation of lost opportunities, but she also shows that with every regret comes lessons learned and growth as a person. I thought Halpern tried to stereotype the grandmothers too much (which she addresses in the book club questions at the end), but to be honest, these stereotypes exist because they have truth to them, like most grandmothers not being good with technology, being frugal, and saying outdated phrases. The unbelievable premise, a grandma making a wish to be 29 again, is written in a believable way and not all ends perfectly--a refreshing reality. I would have liked less of the annoying daughter Barbara, written entirely too much like a whiny teenager even though she is in her 40's, and more of Lucy, the likable, energetic, and successful granddaughter of our main character Ellie. I did think that the 29-year-old version of Ellie would not have done some of the improper acts that Halpern has her do, but I enjoyed the scenes with Lucy and young Ellie the most and wished for more of those. I found myself rushing through the scenes with Barbara and Frida, Ellie's best friend. Even though this book is marketed to all ages, I recommend it for the 20's to 40's crowd because it serves as a cautionary tale about living your life to the fullest in a way that will leave you with the fewest regrets. I think anyone older would actually feel a little hopeless after reading this since even though Ellie claims to be happy after her youthful experience, her life still seems like it could have been much happier than it was had she chosen a different path in her 20's. Ultimately, the question Halpern keeps posing--"Should you marry for love or security?"--seems outdated as most people in our modern culture would scream "love." I think the bigger question this book emphasizes that you should asked when faced when opportunities or decisions is "Will you regret this decision in 10 years? 20? 30?" A good question to ask at any crossroads, especially in matters of the heart.
*3 out of 5 bookmarks*
Today is my first day reviewing a book for SingleMindedWomen.com, a site that partially focuses on books for women. They have a "to-read" list that they haven't yet written reviews about, and they ask bloggers like me to read and review these books. My first book is 29 by Adena Halpern, and although there are a few aspects I thought could have been more polished, I DID cry at the end, which by my standards means overall, the book is worth reading. I am a sucker for the theme of regret, and Halpern does a good job of showing the devastation of lost opportunities, but she also shows that with every regret comes lessons learned and growth as a person. I thought Halpern tried to stereotype the grandmothers too much (which she addresses in the book club questions at the end), but to be honest, these stereotypes exist because they have truth to them, like most grandmothers not being good with technology, being frugal, and saying outdated phrases. The unbelievable premise, a grandma making a wish to be 29 again, is written in a believable way and not all ends perfectly--a refreshing reality. I would have liked less of the annoying daughter Barbara, written entirely too much like a whiny teenager even though she is in her 40's, and more of Lucy, the likable, energetic, and successful granddaughter of our main character Ellie. I did think that the 29-year-old version of Ellie would not have done some of the improper acts that Halpern has her do, but I enjoyed the scenes with Lucy and young Ellie the most and wished for more of those. I found myself rushing through the scenes with Barbara and Frida, Ellie's best friend. Even though this book is marketed to all ages, I recommend it for the 20's to 40's crowd because it serves as a cautionary tale about living your life to the fullest in a way that will leave you with the fewest regrets. I think anyone older would actually feel a little hopeless after reading this since even though Ellie claims to be happy after her youthful experience, her life still seems like it could have been much happier than it was had she chosen a different path in her 20's. Ultimately, the question Halpern keeps posing--"Should you marry for love or security?"--seems outdated as most people in our modern culture would scream "love." I think the bigger question this book emphasizes that you should asked when faced when opportunities or decisions is "Will you regret this decision in 10 years? 20? 30?" A good question to ask at any crossroads, especially in matters of the heart.
*3 out of 5 bookmarks*
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